Posts Tagged ‘realism’

HOW DO YOU COPE” 

This is the question for today ,…..  

I am asked this daily too many times too count….. The answer is normal answer is …. I just don’t let it spoil my day.

I have a pain threshold that is way above normal parameters,” I have in the past walked 2+ miles with the full effects of Memgicocal meningitis” then a further 20 yards to the medical center explained what was wrong and what allergies I had before hitting the floor. On contact with the carpet my muscles relaxed and my whole body shakes. So I can cope with high levels of pain…. And if I say it’s sore or hurts it actually is very serious stages. After 40 years I have learned too manage and understand this very well.

My sence of humour is warped,fast and contagious, and my thought process is pro active not depressive. There is always a happy glow and smile on my face (even if the worst has happened or the day is really bad). Then I was blessed with strong broad shoulders that carry any hardship with ease. Personal drive too succeed and achieve,early bird catches the worm mentality. Strong heart that powers my frame ,educated , alert and active mind. Positive and realistic outlook on life and well lit path before me. 

It’s not an easy thing to pull off at all , fortunately I was born of hard stuff from strong natured DNA stock. But I have also had to graft and work hard on the combinations of this package. “Coping with bullies,insults,discrimination,pre conceptions,un educated,disrespect and generally scared people.” Still too this day people still try and dispose thier opinion on my look and intelligence.

I just walk away most of the time,but have put people in thier place verbally and realistically leaving them diminished and ashamed. Now being 6ft4 really helps and in the word of Billy Connely (I look more like a mugger than a mug E ). All achieved by time,work,polishing and most of all pride. 

Society is generally nosey and inquisitive,but also ashamedly un educated and ignorant. Inclusion is not part of life thanks too generation’s of installed prejudice and hate . Whether it’s colour,race,religion,disability,orientation or look these have been established over decade and melenia. It is the job of present generation’s to kick start the re education of the future too accept and understand.

Now I know that the above doesn’t resemble everyone but it is a large majority of society. I know a large section of people that are not tarnished by this. And accept ,ask and learn, we all come from the same cloth.  I don’t care for the above  indiscretion at all personality,brains and humour matter far more.

Your own inner strength is your beauty and determination drives you and inspires others to follow. 

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Spinning tops and building blocks

Calydascopes of colour fall

Cars and vans in traffic jams

Dolls on the floor prams galore

Finger painting and messy clay fun

Shooting bubbles from a gun

Scooters zip and wheels spin

Time and again we skip and run

Balls of energy bouncing round

Do thier feet touch the ground

Silence falls investigate

Fast asleep where they played

Life is fun and full of joy

Child’s play to those who know

Trudgery abound
Wheeled between pillar and post
Tubed and prodded
Rolled and turned
Quizzed and questioned
Smiles and frowns clear
Scratching of heads seen
Stiched,stapled and bandaged
Body thrown through traumas unknown
Blood let and drugged to the eyeballs
This is the form of the patients day
Guinea Pig of the state
For science and medical advance
No care to your career or advancement
Time is thier to waste to acheive
Rules flouted and actions delayed
We the cadaver told to be patient
Relax and recover
What about the person or the family
No care given at all

Flow

Posted: April 25, 2016 in Random
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Tumble and dash

Cascading with a splash

Pebbles and rocks

Crash and rumble

Ebb and flow

Sea word flow

Salmon and trout

Play about

Sheltered by trees

On way to the sea

Gurgle and murmur

Crashing like thunder

Escaping land

With freedoms sigh

Seaward glances wave goodbye

I
Have
Travelled
Far and wide
Been educated
Through trials
Of life’s journeys path
Achieved and failed
In equal measure
Love, laughed and lost
Built up my portfolio
Sold myself
Too pay my way
Delivered  my best every day
In my unique and personal way
To stranger and friend
As if they were gold
Built up memories always to hold
This is me
My way and life

Take it in your stride

Place your foot upon its rays
The shafts of light
The solar gaze
Step by step
Stride by stride
With a song in your heart
And smile on your face
The day has dawned
Fresh and new
Another chapter has begun
Life is for living
Fill it with fun
The stresses and turmoil
Will never drag you down
Just take it in your stride
In the brightness of the sun

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The light shatters the dark
The faint voices
Distant permeation of the silence
Clambering and stretching
pugilistic attempts
To clear the path ahead
Happiness defiant
Depressiveness dwelling strong
Battle after battle
The voices reach
Slowly increasing volume
Closer to the light
We scramble slow
Pushing and pulling
Our mental state free
From the weight of past
Towards the free range of futures glow

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On cotton candy clouds
Punting through life
Idilically peaceful
Away from the rat race
Alone but free
Safe from harm and harassment
Jauntily propelled forward
The rythmic joy of solitude
Destination set
No timescale to follow
Arrival at our leisure
No reason to rush
Our peaceful places
Just for us

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Battling with anything is stressfull on a min-min,hour-hour and day to day basis.
  It can be anything trivial, minor, personal, public, or social for example.
  The thought processes and way we deal with these issues is of ultimate importance.
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Family and Friends are all important and formulate a close and handy support network. “Yes we dont beleive they know or understand how we feel”
  But they do !!! , they live with the problem aswell as your action/reaction to any situation. They feel your pain, stress and disolution with whatever the problem is. And often feel helpless and are the but and striking point for your frustrations. At the end of it all we are all human and are not experts or infalable in any situation.
   I have many times struck out in some way at those closest too me as imidiate affect of some situation or other. “This however doesnt really help anyone and makes everything more complicated”
  Your feelings of being miss understood and victomised are then forced on others making them the victom and demorolised. Why ? because you blame then for your situation or not understanding. When actually its Us that are at fault for our inadiquate acceptance of our own situation and refusal to take proper advice and use it.
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In any situation like this we feel alone, misunderstood, fear and dispare. By alienating those around us we amplify this making us more Alien and alone in a crowd.
   Finding the cause for our dispare and properly dealing with it in a proper and sencible manner. Talking to Friends and Family or Specialist to find better ways of managing and dealing with the situation. Builds a better environment and self help first aid kit for these times.

I do realise that this is not easy at all and I am no expert although I have regular dealings with this type of situation. So speak from experience and knowledge of similar advice and support chains. Please think before you explode , talk and discuss with those around you , seak proffessional help and follow the action plans put in place for you. Honest it helps greatly as does doing as much exercise as possible and eating smart. As it has been proven that proper diet and regular exercise has a major impact on Physical, Mental, Social and Medical issues that people suffer throughout life making things easier.
  It is all hard at the begining as the body and its systems are not used to the actions and exertions. Making things feel worse but this will only last for a few months at most as the body, mind ect get used to the changes then life gets easier and better. You have provided yourself with a brilliant de stressing tool and it doesnt have to cost the earth.
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This is my opinion and my thought on how I have dealt with things I know situations are different. But through research and advice I know that it does have a great impact on any situation.

Please Seek Help And Make Healthier Lifestyle Choices. And Talk too Someone when Feeling Low and in Dispare.