Who is behind the Mask (my life)

Posted: January 10, 2014 in Random


I am Brian Fotheringham and this wonderful journey starts in 1974. The first of August 0700 Edinburgh. An amazing event happened I arrived in the world.
Born with a deep cleft in my forehead two bone lumps above my nose situated at start of where my eye brows should be.
And my eye’s were situated round towards my ears .

The pediatricians and E N T surgeons had never seen anything like this before but told my Parents that at around 18 months they would operate to have a look and see what could be done.
Which my parents were delighted, the 18 months passed with the usual embarising sleep suites ect, D-day came round and I was taken into hospital for a few days.
The surgeons opened me up with an incision from right ear to left ear over the top of my skull,And quickly closed it up again.
I was blissfully unaware of any issues till around the age of 4/5 years old.
Yeah the wonderful world that is School, filled with Bullies, Name Calling, joke makers and general fear of the unknown.
From every angle school was very uncomfortable , from leaving home to return. Needles to say I was classed as aggressive and anxious by some teachers (But medically nothing could be found).
Names such as ET, four eye’s ect were the daily norm aswell as freak mongo so on so forth. And some used to physically pick on me which know I laugh at (being 6ft 4inch 186 lbs and a former British Marine Commando).
Around 6 years old I asked my parents if anything could be done and the conveyor belt of the rest of my life begins.
1979:As I was nervously sitting in a hospital waiting room in Edinburgh, unknown too me the first appointment of hundreds that would change my life. The Specialist admitted that at this time the knowledge was not around in Edinburgh to carry out such procedures, however there was a group of surgeons in Glasgow that could do what was necessary. This group of surgeons had re built a young boys from Brazil’s face after specialist there could not do it. The young boy was called David and had been born without a face and Dr Thomson and his team had performed many surgeries to rebuild his face.
This was encouraging to a 6/7-year-old boy fed up of all the hassles and ridicule that he was going through daily, even though I did not understand the full gravity of the situation.
Three months later we were off on route to the Southern General Hospital Glasgow for the first appointment, arriving about 45 mins early as usual we checked in grabbed a quick bite to eat then took our seats in the waiting area. As we sat down my name was called and we were ushered into the consulting room. As I sat in the dentist like chair surrounded by strange faces and them talking about me as if I wasn’t there. The appointment seemed to take over an hour , but 20 minutes or so we emerged from the consulting room everything set in place and the next 4/5 appointments set out and booked in.

Now on the conveyor belt of test,X-rays,photographs and appointments that were to take place over the next year as Operation date was provisionally pencilled in for July of that year. The daily attack of bullies and idiots tried even harder it seemed to break my spirit and make me a prisoner of my own miss fortune. I had built up great defences to all things even as young as I was with my sense of humour and physical ability there was nothing standing in my way, it was said by many that I had a (Don’t Give A Fck) attitude. This and friends old and new got me through anything and the surprise was that a few of the bullies and tormentors had become really close friends and are to this day.
After a very traumatic and busy year the date for the operation was quickly upon me , the week before I was treated to anything I wanted by friends and family and the best was seeing the Harlem Globe Trotters play in Edinburgh and the announcement played out live on radio the morning of the dreaded Day.

Loaded into the car we were of on what to me seemed like a slow long drive to Glasgow.

  1. prayingforoneday says:

    Good blog mate… Do you know how to extra stuff in like others have on the sidebar?
    http://prayingforoneday.wordpress.com/ I can show you..Good looking blog..

  2. prayingforoneday says:

    You NEED a follow button..
    Go to Widgets and add it..

  3. prayingforoneday says:

    Reblogged this on Looking for reasoning to a complicated world and commented:
    Would like to welcome a GOOD friend to WordPress. I have known Brian since School, early School. He is a brilliant lad and was my fitness and injury coach when I did Soccer (Normal football outside the USA) He is AMAZING with all pain. Follow him HE WILL HELP!! Cheers. Shaun

  4. CarissaMarie says:

    Welcome! 🙂

  5. Dr. Rex says:

    This is an excellent post, dear friend!! Thanks for sharing …. hugs!!!

  6. Dr. Rex says:

    Reblogged this on It Is What It Is and commented:
    Being different outside …. the same as all inside!!! We all are one!!

  7. Jade Reyner says:

    Welcome – inspirational story. I am looking forward to reading more of your blogs and your advice. 🙂

  8. willowdot21 says:

    This is a truly amazing story you have here thank you for sharing it.xxx

  9. joynpain2 says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. I’m glad you finally decided to write it. I’ll be looking forward to reading more, Brian.

  10. Thanks for sharing your story here. Found you through Shaun. You got a new follower. I’m looking forward to read more from you.

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